I came up this topic because I actually have the experience that my ex boyfriend cheated on me. "I'll never forgive my boyfriend if he cheat on me even once." That was my philosophy until my ex boyfriend cheated on me. However, after it really happened to me, my mind started to waver which decision practically affects both of us in positive way. Actually, I'm still struggling to find the right answer, but at least I have the one that I can say for sure; which is "Once the couple lose faith in each other, they can not recover it like before." There are a couple of reasons that I still can not find the answer for the problem.
In my case, I guess also most of other coupel's cases, boyfriend apologizes to his girlfriend frantically if it's like he is going to kill himself if she doesn't forgive him. He says everything he can "that was just by impulse, I love only you!" "I' ll never do that again, I promise you!" Basically, most girlfriends forgive their boyfriends by his desperate apologize. I was the one who forgave my boyfriend because of that. Although after his cheating, our relationship became very awkward. I couldn't trust him anymore and I was anxious about everything what he did, in the meanwhile, he felt guilty and curryed favor with me everytime. We both tired of it and we broke up finally. It is very hard to give up relationship right away after cheating, but we should know it can not be the happy ending.
One of my guy friend told me that boys keep cheating because almost all girls forgive them as long as they apologize to their girlfriends deadly. It was really shocking to me. That means if I don't want my boyfriend cheats on me, I'm not suppose to forgive him even once. However, I have no confidence that I can do that. Again, it is very hard to break up right away because even after he betrayed me I can not hate him immediately.
Because of those reasons, I'm still trying to figure it out which is the right answer. Besides, I really want to know other people's opinions about it as well.
